the upper echelon: elitist dating criteria part I

Well I'm here in Cali and I've been thinking a lot about guys, just the concept of them more than looking for one myself. I'm not right now. After getting out of a serious relationship I've been contemplating the constant search for Mr. Right more than actually participating in it myself. 

There are a couple things I've been thinking about, and one is to what extent you look for a guy that's in the same lifestyle as you are, so along with this goes education, financial background, occupational expectations and aspirations, right? But if these things help us determine who our potential partners are...to what extent do we limit ourselves? I went out with my friends and met a bunch of guys and then we found out they all work in best buy...as a bunch of college students that was kind of an immediate pump the breaks. is that messed up? Some of my really good guy friends work so-called "blue-collar" jobs, they don't work on wall street or in hedge funds or anything like that, they didn't necessarily go to ivy league schools or anything, and they are amazing, thorough, good men...so would I immediately pass one of them up if i met them when I was out, strictly because of where they do, or don't, go to school? Would I immediately decide that because they may not have had the opportunities I've had that they don't have the motivation to better themselves, even if perhaps they just haven't had success yet, and maybe that is just because the obstacles they face are so much harder. But what am I looking for, if I plan to be an extremely successful black woman, who has already accomplished much in my field by the age of 25? Does that mean I'm only looking for someone who is moving in the same circles as I am. So that I can guarantee that I will be middle or upper-middle class not only by myself and for myself but in addition to whoever I end up with? Because that way I don't have to worry about supporting anyone else? I think that's the fear people have, or at least no one imagines that a woman might be the main "bread-winner" in a family. What if  you end up with a teacher, a mechanic, the manager of a retail store, or the owner of a record shop? 

But then they say that a highly-successful black woman is intimidating to most guys, so you wouldn't be able to find one of those anyway is the assumption?

 I'm not sure...but more on that later...because I'm getting really distracted by my friends, the smell of dinner, and kill bill.